20 years old, pregnant, no job, husband in army. How do I make this happy news to tell my family?
February 2, 2011
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Q&A: 20 years old, pregnant, no job, husband in army. How do I make this happy news to tell my family?
To give further detail. My husband and I have only been married for a couple months and I am now pregnant. I am 20 years old and have 2 years of college down and plan on finishing. I’m only about 3-4 weeks pregnant. He is in the army and gone alot so I need my family support but know that they will feel that it is too young and I need to finish school. How do I make this a happy event to tell them about?
Thanks so much. This makes it a little easier. I’m now waiting till I get an ultra sound.
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Answer by heather
Just make sure you go about it in a positive way! Do not approach it expecting a bad reaciton, your married, so thats good, your husband is gone allot so you will have someone with you at all times. it may be stressful but sefore tehy can react make sure you let them know how much you are going to need thier support, and prob. include you plan to finish school 
GOOD LUCK!!!!! and CONGRATS!!!!
Answer by Lauren
You can still go to college whilst you’re pregnant, and after the baby is born you can take him/her with you while you finish. I assume since your husband is in the army you can afford to have a child? Honestly explain to them that you two are married, it was unexpected but a blessing and that you hope they’ll be able to see it like that-in time. I’m 20 and just had my little boy nearly six weeks ago. My partner and I have been together for four years and engaged for two of them. My family was thrilled when I told them-I was expecting hestitancy and reluctancy. They’ve had you so they know what a blessing a baby is. Good luck to you and I hope it all works out!
Answer by JoKTM
You can work pt while you are in college. Believe it or not most people have to work while they are in school. You have several months to get things in order before the baby gets here. Start looking for a pt job and focus on school. It will not be easy for you to tell your family but I promise it will be ok.
Answer by kittykat, mum to son
as long as they see your very happy about your news and want them involved, they will be happy for u. u are married now and children usualy follow. im sure they will be happy as long as they see u r 
Answer by Kate
I had my first at a few days short of 18 and am due with my second any day now (at 20). My husband and I chose to have a second baby so soon so he’d be able to see his son grow up a bit before heading out on deployments.
Wait for a few more weeks to make sure it “sticks” and then just let them know. Tell them you’re excited and nervous and have full intent to finish out schooling before & after the baby comes. Let them know that it’s going to be hard on you and that you really need their support more than ever now.
Let them know that the happy addition to the family came a little sooner than you’d planned but that you’re thrilled nonetheless and hopefully they’ll be just as thrilled!
Oh, and congrats! 
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I think all you can do is tell them and hope they take it well. They will think what they’re going to think regardless of how you put it.
We’re in the same exact boat, just a few years difference in age, and I’m 18+ weeks. Military spouse, jobless, a few years of college under my belt.
Regardless, they will come around and be supportive, especially considering hubby will be gone alot. They know they are your “keep me sane” system. They won’t abandon you. Have faith in them
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Get a job, then tell them. You’re married though, and an adult, so I dont see why it wouldn’t be happy news.
They only worry because they care about you, not because they don’t believe in you. Make sure you have a game plan for finishing school before you tell them, that way they will know you are serious about finishing. Tell them you understand that it is going to be difficult, and that is why you will need their support. Make sure you and your husband act like a united front when you are around them, so that they don’t worry about your relationship deteriorating because of the pregnancy. I think that they will be shocked, but after the shock wears off, it is hard to not be excited. Try not to let it get you down if they don’t show a lot of excitement right away, because I’m sure they will come around shortly after.
I would present it in a positive way. Children are a blessing, and hardly the end of the world (or your plans to finish school & then work), unless you allow yourself to have a negative outlook. Just be honest with your family, and if they choose to be negative, let them know you need their support and not their negativity. It is possible to finish school online, or take night classes and hire a babysitter. it is possible to work and have your child in daycare. I don’t think age has anything to do with it. I’ve known excellent parents who are very young, and some parents who were “the right age” who are absolutely abominable parents.
Being pregnant is happy news!You are having a baby with a man whom you love and that is great!It may not be at the most convenient time but you will be OK!I just graduated in October with my degree.You can still attend lectures and classes while pregnant,I did it and it was fine.My pregnancy wasn’t exactly planned and we wanted to wait a bit longer before having children but my whole family is excited-especially the grandparents!I’m sure your family will be happy and supportive!
Good luck!
Honestly speaking you really don’t control their feelings. However, if they love you, no matter what the situation is, they will be very supportive. Be very firm and confident when you share the news with them. Also mention to them some of the ways and the plans that you have for your life and the new baby.
You should trust that everything will workout great for you. Just believe and make sure to not focus on the negatives. We all have challenges and as young person having a baby with you particular condition, it may seem that the world has just crashed on you. The truth is, it’s a miracle happening in your body and you will do just well. I have three kids and what I had experienced with each of my kids were that I had some sort of blessings coming to me. You will too!
Congrats!
Ok I had to answer this because I know how hard being an army wife with a husband deployed can be while being pregnant. Me and my husband found out we are pregnant 2 weeks before deployment and it is going to be hard but if your family loves you they will be there for you and help in anyway they can. The fact that you are jobless doesn’t matter your husband works and you should be able to finish school. Just take it one day at a time and everything will be fine.
Congratulations