Hi,I did the following:
Q&A: i want my husband to luv me but not sure if i love him?pls reply?

when he has a day off he sits at home orders me all sorts of work.i try to make him happy,even physically,doesnt matter i want it or not,but when i ask for anything to treat me he refuses. he has and will never cheat on me,i trust him more than anything in the world.he takes all the decisions in and outside home.but when i tell my decisions he do not agree.lter,he regrets.but still never listens me.we have a beautiful daughter who is only 3mths old.im at home now,so he dont like it.ofcourse with baby we have lots of expenses which he hates.so refuses some time for shoping even in emergencies.he respects my parents but do not show them.he treats every one as he is the boss.and he smiles even if he insults.i want him to change but dont know how………..help!!!!!!!!!!!!

ANSWER:

Answer by hayanchansa
I can only suggest marriage counseling. You’re going to have to talk to him and get him to talk to you. A healthy marriage can’t exist without compromise these days, and you should both be able to listen to one another.

Other than that, there’s nothing else you can do short of leaving him, even if only temporarily.

Answer by Ida
get a job and think of your new options. i think you get the point that this isnt a healthy way of living.

Answer by justmemimi
How could anyone love someone like that,… but when you have a child it’s a different story- leaving someone as chauvinistic as this one makes you think twice. This is what I would do: I would write him a letter, which he can read over and over while I go back to my parents while he thinks about my ultimatum> treat me like I’m his queen- or I’m gone forever.
He should get a taste of a life without you and the baby.

Answer by Aussie_Gal
I guess you do love him but right now you resent him. He is trying to run your life and your feeling used and have been given no respect from him. You both need to get some councelling and if he doesnt agree, I guess go on your own. At least then you can deal with ways to handle these tough situations. But I feel if it was me in your situation I would be standing up for myself, and getting my views across. Another way I thought might make him think better of you, would be to use reverse psychology. Dont do anything for him, when he says jump you sit. GO ON STRIKE!
I also feel you have given him what ever he wants, when he wants it and now his taken this and ran with it. Make him learn to respect you, you deserve it.

Answer by Jc1978
I’m in the same shoe with you. My hubby is the same he think he the boss to everybody. He always thinks he right even when he wrong. Mens will always be mens. (not entirely all men are the same some are pushover) You can never change him. You either take it or leave it. For me I learn to accept him and I know that I love him more than he loves me. So learn to accept him for who he is or just leave the relationship and find someone better for yourself.

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